make time.

"I don't care if you have three hours of homework left.If your friend is crying,go comfort her.If your boyfriend is upset,you need to go give him a hug.If your mother wants to talk,talk to her.If your brother are jumping in leaf piles,go join them. If your family wants to go out and eat,go with them.You can't miss your life because of the demands of school.You can always finish the homework later,or get bad grade. But life,you can't push that off for later. You only get that one chance.and no homework assignment is more important than actually living your life."

When I write this, I know somebody  will read this. When you read this, don’t be upset, you’ll understand, hopefully.

"I don't have the time for people."

Bullshit.

I hear this “making time” reasoning every day and it never fails to make my skin crawl. All of us only have 24 hours in a day. We are obligated to do things , work, complete errands, take care of others and so many other things during that time. We get engulfed by our busy work life that our real priorities in life seem to slip away.People are always busy, too busy to talk. Nobody makes time for family or friends. For some, it’s entirely possible to juggle a schedule that’s full of diverse activities.  But for others, the list of obligations is so long and rigid that there is no opportunity to make time for others. Work can’t be moved or shortened, so there simply isn't a chance to add in even more time for other people.

Everybody have busy lives, but you make time for the people who mattered. 

Otherwise, you would lose them.

Let me tell you this,being busy is not a virtue.People who often say they’re too busy,they almost sound like buzzing busy signals. And when you start sounding like an appliance, it makes it hard to connect with you.Going on and on in detail about how stressed out you are isn't conversation. It’ll never lead anywhere.No one ever wants to hear how stressed out anyone else is, because most of the time everyone is stressed out.  Likewise, going on about how busy you are isn't conversation and doesn't lead anywhere except making your conversation partner bored, or worse, peeved. People who act super busy send the same message, making time spent with them never feel quite whole.

For you,giving up work would be disastrous, a matter of opportunity cost. Sometimes other things just isn't important enough for you to give it priority over  work. You may want to go out, but completing your tasks is more important. You might want to make some time with your family but studying  might be more beneficial . That’s completely fine ,you have to do what’s best for you.But,remember this,you are missing out on lots of things.

You bragged on how superior your own  routine is.For you,only you matter.Your constant complaints of being too busy is the express line to a mini ego trip.For you, being busy is such a valuable quality to the point where you figured that spending time on anything that doesn't fit into a limited definition of “productive” is pointless.

You think that being busy is such a virtue, the foundation to its indiscriminate use as a front or an excuse.

So if you find yourself feeling frazzled, habitually explaining away things with a busy status, it’s probably time to slow down and pay attention to what is in front of you.Darling,press pause.Make time to see or speak to family and friends.Catch up on how everyone is doing, discuss on the ups and downs of their lives.When did the last time you talked to them? Did you took them for granted all these time?Don’t be that 'too busy’ person. Think about other people.

I understand that it's easy to get carried away with busy schedules . After all, it is important.  But don't let yourself forget the importance of other people in your life.  Where will you go and who will you turn to in hard times?

 It is so easy to say that ‘I do not have the time’. 

The truth is if you never make it, you will never have it.